THE ASSUMED RELATIONSHIP...........MY OWN EXPERIENCE

Hello beautiful people...Today's gist is a rather interesting one and trust me, it’s gonna be a major eye-opener for all of us..so sit back (probably with a cup of tea...*grin*) and enjoy your read.

So I'm about to share a personal experience ...(one that really rocked me). I've been a mugu before so it’s okay if you feel or you’ve felt the same way at one time (everybody should have his/her story)...One major reason for this post is because a friend of mine is being a mugu for a guy at the moment and I don't know how to tell her but I know she secretly reads my blog and I hope she sees this...(I know she will)

Story story (you must start your post with the correct response oo *smiles*). I was dating this guy or so I thought...because I was practically the only one in the relationship...I’ll walk you through the story... One thing that tripped me about this guy was his sense of style and humour and back then, I didn't mind if a guy was fine or ugly, as long as he could dress well or make me laugh, that's all that was needed. I was already obsessed sef ** I was always like this around him

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You know we ladies na, when we like a guy like this, we go just off brain **. I mean, I was already picturing our wedding and how many children we would have and the names of the kids sef. You wanna try????? But now, I hate him. Not the kind of hate that says “you still love someone but because he isn’t yours, you hate him”... No not that kind. Its the kind that if someone tells you he got hit by a car, you'd be glad...ehen! That kind. Lemme give you the full gist.

He was a friend of the family however I started really noticing him at my cousin's wedding but as a sharp babe na ,I didn't let him notice though I think he did. He later got my number from my sister and that was how the texting, calling and pinging started. I would go to his house, fix him breakfast, lunch, dinner and even overnight food sef. Mehn I turned proper maga on this issue called 'man'. We went on several dates and after a while I started seeing myself as the girlfriend and not a friend that is a girl. Even his friends were already calling me Iyawo or Iyawo ore wa...(chai!..may car jam all the friends that deceived us when they knew there was nothing for us..LOL).Whenever I was at his place, I was the wife oo, we would eat (after I cook), play, watch T.V., joke, laugh and sometimes gist until we fall asleep. All these just further deepened my ‘mugu-lity’

So one day, I read something online about 'defining your status in a relationship' so I decided to ask him before it was too late. This was how the conversation went

Me: Babe (I was already calling him a sweet name), where's this leading to? Shey na marriage so I will tell my mum to start expecting their in-laws.

GUY: Sweetheart (takes pause + deep breath...how I wish it was asthma  ...*rolls eyes*), I really like you...I like you a whole lot but I don't think I'm ready for anything serious now.

He had the guts to call me ‘sweetheart’ before shattering my heart. It took an intervention from where I don’t even know for me to pick up the fragments of my shattered heart. How I left his house, I can't remember. I can't even remember my exact reply but I know there was an expression like this

then something I did with my middle finger and then tears. I felt used. I felt lost.  It took me a month to finally get me back from the world of the broken hearted.

He called me back some months later and was apologising then the mumu girl in me fell for him again. But this time around, I was planning on playing smart. I bought the book 'think like a man and act like a lady' and tried all the tricks in the book sef....**omo dem no work o**.The story was the same.

3 months down the line, another cousin of mine was getting married and he was to attend so I made a dress I was so sure was going to get him down on both knees begging for my hand in marriage. I mean I'm a beautiful girl na...(yelz ke, and selxzy too..LOL).

Come that day, he finally arrived and guess what? He came with a babe.... Choi! I wan die. He saw me, waved at me and that was all I saw of him. He had his eyes all over this babe like she was going to run away. I was just praying the ground would open and swallow me and keep me there forever. I later got over him but it wasn't without a lesson. I realized I was the one lying to myself. I saw the handwriting on the wall but ignored it. He always introduced me as his friend but in my mind, I was hearing 'my special friend' which is also known as 'girl friend' (which is probably another lie sef...girlfriend is girlfriend..Any other thing isn’t).

If someone really wants to be with you, they will do everything to be with you. I'm sure a lot of people can relate with my experience. I've heard the flimsiest excuses from people who have been in the 'assumed relationship'. Let me give you example

*Its not you, its me..(infact na slap suppose follow dis kain talk)

*I'm very busy with work. My boss keeps me at work till late..(ehen, after late nko?)

*I'm scared of commitment

*I just came out from a bad relationship and I don't think I can ever love again..(may you never be loved again too)

* I'm trying to know who I am so I can't be in a relationship yet..(Olodo ...check google na)

* you are too good for me..(and you’re too stupid for you too)..LOL..

I know you guys must have heard more dumb escape lines..please put yours in the comment section below. I'll love to see it...let's laugh it out.

Brethren, as long as he/she keeps making excuses to stop being with you, then the person doesn't deserve you at all. Stop LYING TO YOURSELF. When you keep lying to yourself, you deprive yourself of what you truly deserve. Once you notice somethings you know are significant signs that he/she is not serious, remove your slippers, pack it, put it under your armpit or on top of your head and run like Usain Bolt is chasing you with a cutlass..LoL

I believe this post would help someone come to their senses...not just my friend...but some others out there who are trapped in their own lies...

Enjoy yourselves and keep smiling....GO! Mobylizers...LOL