Hello beautiful
people...Today's gist is a rather interesting one and trust me, it’s gonna be a
major eye-opener for all of us..so sit back (probably with a cup of
tea...*grin*) and enjoy your read.
So I'm about to
share a personal experience ...(one that really rocked me). I've been a mugu
before so it’s okay if you feel or you’ve felt the same way at one time
(everybody should have his/her story)...One major reason for this post is
because a friend of mine is being a mugu for a guy at the moment and I don't
know how to tell her but I know she secretly reads my blog and I hope she sees
this...(I know she will)
Story story (you
must start your post with the correct response oo *smiles*). I was dating this
guy or so I thought...because I was practically the only one in the
relationship...I’ll walk you through the story... One thing that tripped me
about this guy was his sense of style and humour and back then, I didn't mind
if a guy was fine or ugly, as long as he could dress well or make me laugh, that's
all that was needed. I was already obsessed sef ** I was always like this around him
You know we ladies na, when
we like a guy like this, we go just off brain **. I mean, I was already
picturing our wedding and how many children we would have and the names of the
kids sef. You wanna try????? But now, I hate him. Not the kind of hate that
says “you still love someone but because he isn’t yours, you hate him”... No not
that kind. Its the kind that if someone tells you he got hit by a car, you'd be
glad...ehen! That kind. Lemme give you the full gist.
He was a friend
of the family however I started really noticing him at my cousin's wedding but
as a sharp babe na ,I didn't let him notice though I think he
did. He later got my number from my sister and that was how the texting, calling
and pinging started. I would go to his house, fix him breakfast, lunch, dinner
and even overnight food sef. Mehn I turned proper maga on this issue called 'man'.
We went on several dates and after a while I started seeing myself as the
girlfriend and not a friend that is a girl. Even his friends were already
calling me Iyawo or Iyawo ore wa...(chai!..may car jam all the friends that
deceived us when they knew there was nothing for us..LOL).Whenever I was at
his place, I was the wife oo, we would eat (after I cook), play, watch T.V.,
joke, laugh and sometimes gist until we fall asleep. All these just further
deepened my ‘mugu-lity’
So one day, I
read something online about 'defining your status in a relationship' so I
decided to ask him before it was too late. This was how the conversation went
Me: Babe (I was
already calling him a sweet name), where's this leading to? Shey na marriage so
I will tell my mum to start expecting their in-laws.
GUY: Sweetheart
(takes pause + deep breath...how I wish it was asthma ...*rolls eyes*), I really like you...I like
you a whole lot but I don't think I'm ready for anything serious now.
He had the guts
to call me ‘sweetheart’ before shattering my heart. It took an intervention
from where I don’t even know for me to pick up the fragments of my shattered
heart. How I left his house, I can't remember. I can't even remember my exact
reply but I know there was an expression like this
then something I did with my middle
finger and then tears. I felt used. I felt lost. It took me a month to finally get me back
from the world of the broken hearted.
He called me
back some months later and was apologising then the mumu girl in me fell for
him again. But this time around, I was planning on playing smart. I bought the
book 'think like a man and act like a lady' and tried all the tricks in the
book sef....**omo dem no work o**.The story was the same.
3 months down
the line, another cousin of mine was getting married and he was to attend so I
made a dress I was so sure was going to get him down on both knees begging for
my hand in marriage. I mean I'm a beautiful girl na...(yelz ke, and selxzy
too..LOL).
Come that day,
he finally arrived and guess what? He came with a babe.... Choi! I wan die. He
saw me, waved at me and that was all I saw of him. He had his eyes all over
this babe like she was going to run away. I was just praying the ground would
open and swallow me and keep me there forever. I later got over him but it
wasn't without a lesson. I realized I was the one lying to myself. I saw the
handwriting on the wall but ignored it. He always introduced me as his friend
but in my mind, I was hearing 'my special friend' which is also known as 'girl
friend' (which is probably another lie sef...girlfriend is girlfriend..Any
other thing isn’t).
If someone
really wants to be with you, they will do everything to be with you. I'm sure a
lot of people can relate with my experience. I've heard the flimsiest excuses
from people who have been in the 'assumed relationship'. Let me give you
example
*Its not you, its
me..(infact na slap suppose follow dis kain talk)
*I'm very busy
with work. My boss keeps me at work till late..(ehen, after late nko?)
*I'm scared of
commitment
*I just came out
from a bad relationship and I don't think I can ever love again..(may you never
be loved again too)
* I'm trying to
know who I am so I can't be in a relationship yet..(Olodo ...check google na)
* you are too
good for me..(and you’re too stupid for you too)..LOL..
I know you guys
must have heard more dumb escape lines..please put yours in the comment
section below. I'll love to see it...let's laugh it out.
Brethren, as long
as he/she keeps making excuses to stop being with you, then the person doesn't
deserve you at all. Stop LYING TO YOURSELF. When you keep lying to yourself,
you deprive yourself of what you truly deserve. Once you notice somethings you
know are significant signs that he/she is not serious, remove your slippers,
pack it, put it under your armpit or on top of your head and run like Usain
Bolt is chasing you with a cutlass..LoL
I believe this
post would help someone come to their senses...not just my friend...but some
others out there who are trapped in their own lies...
Enjoy yourselves and keep
smiling....GO! Mobylizers...LOL
