MY MAMA HATES ME

Fear thou not cos my mama loves me...hehe

Mi lovies, how di do? 

Its another Friday already o and then another weekend. I doubt there would be a full weekend download on Monday cos I still feel sick and I think I need to use anti-malaria drugs judiciously this time. 

I stumbled on a story on yahoo yesterday and my mouth is still opened... like seriously opened and I thought I should share with you.

Growing up, my mother and I would fight over little things, from not flushing the toilet after peeing (now I blame her for my mysophobic nature) to not taking a shower cos I feel sleepy but most times it was for staying out too late or hanging out with people who I was too blind to see weren’t really my friends. But even though we didn’t always see eye to eye, I always knew that she had my best interest at heart and was just trying to protect me.

Watching her taught me that being a parent means loving your children unconditionally, in spite of their flaws.

But clearly, this mom missed that memo.
A mother posted a message on Reddit, asking for help because she has a daughter who is “physically unattractive” and “honestly looks like she has some sort of disability.”

PARDON....PARDIN? 

Yes a mother said this about her own child.... a child that spent 9 months in her womb. I am still very shocked.
If your mouth is open from being in awe (ironically) of this woman, you may want to sit down, because there’s more. Instead of just stopping there, she stresses how hard it is for her and her husband to love their daughter in spite of her “ugly” looks. Here is just a tiny fraction of her speech:
“I feel beyond awful that I feel this way. But, because she is such a wonderful person inside, it hurts me the more that her peers won’t see past her physical appearance. And, may God strike me dead for saying this, I’d almost rather she DID have a disability or chromosomal disorder. Then there would be an explanation for the way she looks other than just ‘bad genetic luck.’”

If this is a contest for the worst mother ever, I think we can all agree that she wins by a landslide. I wonder what kind of person you have to be for you to actively wish that your child had a disability. Nothing matters to a girl than what her mother thinks of her. Our mothers are our whole world and wouldn't you be heartbroken if you get to know that your mother think you are ugly? Iya Dayo still tells me (as old as I am) how beautiful I look. Just yesterday, as I was leaving the house for work, I asked her how I looked and she said 'very beautiful' with a smile. That mattered to me... I felt pretty all through the day.. If someone had called me ugly yesterday, I won't have cared cos my mum thinks I am very beautiful. So how can this woman honestly sleep at night when her daughter is ugly to her.
A mother called  her own flesh and blood "physically unattractive", which is pretty much the last thing you’d ever expect any mom ever to say about her kids.

Yes, we have this notion in our society where good looking people will have an added advantage over few things but I have known people who have done immensely and loved by masses despite of how they look.

Let us all be aware that such feelings (of hate, love, e.t.c) are magnified times a thousand and one demoralizing comment or thought can make anyone see him/herself in a terrible light which might lead to low self esteem.

What do you think? Is it fair for a mother to ever admit this? Is she wrong or is she a good mother because she sees a real problem developing and wants help? 

And with my last post for the week, I open the door to an amazing weekend.