RANT - SEASON 19 BY ANONYMOUS

rant

rant/

verb

1. 1.

   speak or shout at length in an angry, impassioned way.

   "she was still ranting on about the unfairness of it all"

   synonyms:

   hold forth, go on and on, deliver a tirade, rant and rave, fulminate, sound off, spout, pontificate, trumpet, bluster, declaim;

HMMMMMNNNN…….Wahala dey oooo.

Infact this post itself is confused.com.
You would know why in a bit….

Please don't ask why I defined Rant... It was looking kinda sexy *covers face*

So this ranter anonymously sent in her rant last week. Now, after reading through, I really did not know what the post falls under cos she sounds like she is asking for advice (as in Dear Moby) and she also  sounds really angry (as in RANT)….Now you see the “confused.com” part…LOL... So, the dramatic me has decided to put up this post by 12 a.m on dot so it falls between Dear Moby series and Rant…hehe. How smart is that?... Problem solved!...*takes a bow*.

I have spoken to her to give my little piece of wisdom *wink* but I have not gotten any feedback from her. I hope she’s fine and I ‘double hope’ she sees this today. She wants to read everyone’s opinion concerning her issues…. Imagine, people are beginning to trust our opinions and take our pieces of advice... That’s super cool...

I have a dream…..hehehe (not time for that Moby….LOL…).

Ok straight to the matter…..

Here we go…

Moby, last night I was in my boyfriend’s house (which was Monday) and we were just chilling on the sofa. We were watching ‘What’s your number” which was a movie I picked myself. Now I regret going to his house and I regret more that I picked that movie. After the movie, he decided to ask what my body count was. I didn’t know it was a trick question. I could have just said 2 immediately like my friend once told me she told her man but I decided to count all the quickies and foreplays and threesomes and I said 25. Actually it was 26 but I forgot one. Immediately, his mien changed and I have not heard the last of it. We slept in different rooms yesterday and he went to work yesterday morning without a good morning kiss or hug. I have since been calling him and he has not been picking. I have been dating this guy for 2 years and never has he asked me that question. I told him at the beginning of the relationship that I was a naughty girl when I was in college but he didn’t ask further questions. Never for once did he bring it up. He even likes the naughty part of me. Why do men have to be so judgmental? He told me his body count at some point and I didn’t mind. Never brought it up after he mentioned it and now mine is a big deal? What rubbish. I am so angry and I just want all men to know everyone has a past. We all mess up at some point. Not enough reason to cut me out. Not fair at all.

End of mail.

So I decided to do my own little survey by asking the opinion of a selected few… (Gbeborun things) and I got very good responses.  I am going to merge the answers of some people that are quite similar and I am also going to use pseudo names for a few (I can’t come and go and answer question in the future)…hehe.

I asked “Is it advisable for you to let your partner know your body count (how many people you’ve slept with in the past before you met him/her)?”

Here are the answers I got.

Rasheed: Well if she wants to know, I will answer her so she doesn’t think I'm hiding my past from her. And my answer will always be 2 which would make her the 3rd always… Even though,if she's the 39^th, she would always be the third.

 

 Chi: It depends on the amount of people I've slept with. I've slept with only 2 people, so yes I will tell him but if it was uncountable, I might have to keep it to myself cos guys are very judgmental. The lady might not mind knowing but the man would always think about it.

Lekan: No problem in telling your spouse how many people you have been with. She asked for it so she has to deal with it. She has to be cool with the feedback.

Salam: I think he should know...cos I like talking about the past and I feel I deserve to know your past as your spouse.

Say what

Rheny: Well, if I am going to get serious with him, it's advisable he knows at the early stage of when he was asking me out. Some ladies won't tell because the number is *inserts smiley* you know what I mean. Funny enough it's all those aristo girls that end up marrying good men so no matter the number of guys you have slept with, if he loves you, he would over look it. As for me Moby, Rheny is going to tell the guy… if I’m going to be serious with him.

Jamie: I don't think it is advisable. However it depends on your partner as some partners could be cruel and use it against you whenever u have a little fight or even blame you for something that is not even connected to the numbers of people you have slept with.

Pastor Yomi: It is not useful information in a relationship because it’s the person's past. The Bible says in the book of 2 Corinthians 5: 17 that wherefore if a man is in Christ, he is a new creature. When you give your life to Christ, everything in the past are passed away so your past is gone. You don’t have to mention your past at all. It can start creating unnecessary mental images in your spouse's mind if by chance you tell them you've been with too many people. The issue of how many people you have slept with is unimportant so let it stay there!

LEBOO SPEAKS

 Errrrr... It actually depends… If there’s a possibility of trouble if/when the person finds out as a result of the figure, then it’s safer you discuss it with your partner before the relationship starts to have any meaning. Its better both parties deal with whatever vex there could be early in the relationship and close that page. Don't wait till you're both in too deep before revelations. On d other hand, you could meet someone and let the person know you’ve had a sordid past and want a fresh start with the person and not want to talk about that past at all. Sometimes people can deal with the fact that the past is in the past..but 4 closure, most people (like me) want to know details, which I think is good so that nothing new catches any one by surprise. So it’s safer to let your spouse know very early in your relationship. Let it almost be the first thing you guys talk about (It has its risks though) but if your body count is overwhelming (especially for the women), you might just wanna use adjectives…LMAO.....If a babe was a ho in Antarctica and she moves 2 Africa, she probably won't need 2 give details....a paraphrase would do.

MOBY: *NO COMMENT*

WAIT!!! No oo.... there’s comment…*rolls eyes*….how would I not have a comment?......

I think, like Leboo said, mention it at the beginning of the relationship when things are not so hot. If he’s okay with it, good for you. If he is not, everyone moves on. No need to hurt over something that’s not yours yet.

For our ranter,sh*t has already gone bad. Give him time…call him once in a while until he picks and try to talk the situation through.  Remind him you are a different person now. It’s your role to be patient with him now and let him calm down. Hopefully, he’ll remember and understand it’s your past. Then you can sit and talk and find out where you both stand. If he says he can’t deal with your body count, huni don’t force it…just let him go. If he stays, good luck mami. Enjoy the relationship. A man that loves you truly won't judge you based on your past mistakes.

Who has any thought or advice for our ranter? The comment section is all yours.

To all the people that responded to my survey in time, God bless you all.

Kisses and hugs for y'all...

Cheers…