DEAR MOBY

Hello mi lovies..

Sorry the Dear Moby series is coming in late. Truly, in my head, I already put up the post...only for me to wake up 2 hours ago to realize it was just a dream. Moby has been feeling down a lot lately... Work, life, personal stuff has been taking a toll on her... So I had to take a little break at work. I am still at work o but I took a 2-hour break to rest.

I know you all understand.

So sometime last week, I got this mail from a fellow Mobylizer asking for our advice and she asked me to put it up if I wanted to. She needs our help and I know we can help her. Thank you all for being so reliable. God bless you.

Here we go.

Greetings to u and happy new month.

I need ur help Moby... Am hurt, heartbroken, not in order, i dunno how to take care of myself anymore, i can't just see myself, am so heartbroken and sad. 

Lemme tell u what really happened.

I have been single (not dating anyone) for a while now and i met this guy some months back, he works with wema bank, seems cool and everything was going on well between us, am 27 but i cannot sleep out cos my parents wont allow me but the guy always want me to come sleep over at his place and this bring up issues between us gaann... 

Moby, I loved this guy so much, gave him my all, went all the way in pleasing him, then he just changed, stopped calling me, told me to stop coming to his house, starts abusing me and all... Saying he was just using me to pass time, he never asked me to love him and the love he was showing me was fake.. Imagine... 

I am having sleepless nights and nightmares cos in my mind i thought i had gotten someone close to my heart not knowing he was a deceiver... Just on Sunday i called him so as to tell him i forgive him and a lady picked up the phone, told me he has told her all about me and she abused me a lot, she called me names.

Right now am down....  I need to heal up, i need to be myself, i need to be the same me and a better me.You can post this on ur blog and let people advice..

Thank You... Expecting ur response.

I love u dearie.. Regards to Tito.

MOBY SPEAKS

So, I am going to be very very frank with you and you must not get angry at all....scared you yet? *Wait for it*

From your mail I can tell you are a good person...I mean you had to call the guy to tell him you forgive him...you must be an angel but I must say this. You need to get up and go on with your life. It is alright for you to mop, cry and feel down... I do that most times to let out steam but it is time to get up, dust yourself and move on. Don't stay on the ground for too long for anybody. Anyone made by God is capable of messing up...no one deserves to put you down for more than a week. 

This is what I have learned in my short time on earth...if someone wants to walk out of your life, LET THEM GO. Especially if  you know that you have done everything and been the best woman you can possibly be. Whatever it is they are running after, leave them, let them go and get it... One yoruba adage says Aja to ba fe peru ko ni gbo fere olode...meaning the dog that wants to enter trouble won't hear the whistle of the hunter (something like that...my yoruba is still under polishing)... let the dog go and get what he deserves.

Don't get mad. Let this guy go. Love yourself...Nobody can love you more than you. Be happy being alone...don't go online looking at happy couple...trust me most people will only put up happy pictures and stories of their lives...they will never tell you the truth. Don't force anyone to be in your life.... If anyone wants to be with you, don't try to prove yourself to them... Just be your self and have fun.

I need you to be happy... and forget that guy...he is not worth your time, energy and tears. 

Now get busy and try to think about him less.... and be HAPPY....okay.

I know my story is plenty.. I just hate when people can't be matured about issues that affects the heart...

You'll be fine...okay dear...

I love you munchos

I don talk plenty... let me sit down and read other people's opinion...*wipes face*